Writing for women building lives on their own terms
Vivian Deakins writes books and essays on life management, independence, neurodivergent living, starting over, and the slow work of becoming. For women who are building something of their own and want writing that meets them where they actually are.
What You’ll Find Here
Books & Writing
Featured books, essays, and long-form writing from Vivian Deakins. Excerpts, announcements, behind-the-scenes of the writing process, and where to find the books.
Life Management & Independence
Practical writing on building a self-sufficient life. Budgeting, decision-making, household systems, and the foundational skills many women were never taught. Closely aligned with HTBI themes.
Neurodivergent Perspectives
Writing from and for neurodivergent women. Navigating work, relationships, and daily life with a brain that does not follow standard instructions. Strategies, observations, and validation.
Starting Over & Rebuilding
Content for women in transitions. Divorce, job loss, health changes, moving, or simply waking up ready for something different. Writing about rebuilding a life from the ground up.
Reflections & Personal Essays
Longer essays, stories, and thoughts on solitary living, creativity, self-trust, and the slow work of becoming. Less tactical, more contemplative.
How This Site Works
Everything I write here comes from lived experience, considered observation, and the ongoing work of building a self-sufficient life as a neurodivergent woman. These are essays and reflections, not product reviews. The writing tries to meet you where you are rather than tell you where to go.
This site occasionally includes affiliate links to books and tools I genuinely recommend (almost always books by other authors I’ve actually read, and the occasional planner or journal that’s earned its place). When you buy something through those links, I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. That’s part of how this site stays free to read. You can read the full affiliate disclosure for details.
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